Singleness isn’t the ultimate prize and neither is marriage…Christ is.
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Hey there! I am so stoked about today’s blog post as this is a topic that people are almost weekly coming to talk to me about! I originally wrote this as an instagram post a few years ago and it is still so relevant!
Your value is not determined by your relationship status. PERIOD. Go ahead. Read that again.
Do you believe that? So many people in our world today believe that their life will truly be significant only once they find someone to love. While we were created with a desire to be seen and known, I also believe we are each innately valuable and cherished because we are created by God. We are his masterpieces and he deeply loves us. This alone is where our identity and value should come from.
There is purpose for your life today regardless of your relationship status.
In Christian culture, there is a lot of pressure to be married. Trust me, I know this first hand. I was in a relationship a few years back. While we were dating, people were always asking when we would get married. Then, when we broke up, it was less than a month before people started asking me if I was dating anyone again! I was beyond annoyed.
The message that is communicated to us is almost as if we are not good enough if we are not married or almost engaged, but that’s so not true! Christ is the only one who will satisfy our hearts, marriage will not complete us, it will never satisfy us. Marriage is lovely, I’m sure, but there is so much God has for us before that day comes!
And truthfully, we must grow to be content if marriage is not God’s best for us. Let God search your heart and ask yourself if you would be okay if you never got married. If not, why not? Are you trusting God’s plan or clinging to a vision of life that’s hindering you from an adventure with the Lord?
You might be single, but you are exactly where you need to be. Your worth is not in your relationship status. You are so completely loved and cherished simply because you are a child of God. He is the ultimate lover of your soul. He takes delight in you.
We can be content in being single when we fully trust God with every piece of our lives. If this seems like an impossible reality, I encourage you to pray and ask God to bring you to a place where you are lovesick for him and deeply content where he has you.
I heard this quote the other day “Singleness isn’t the ultimate prize and neither is marriage…Christ is.”
Can I get an AMEN!?! This is too good. I have lost count of how many times I have heard someone say, “Singleness is a season of waiting.” Y’all, it doesn’t have to be just waiting! Yes, we might be waiting, but also there is so much living to be doing right now!
I encourage us all to get to know God. Go on dates with Jesus. Ask him questions. Tell him about your day. Fall on your face in awe of who he is. Fix your eyes on Jesus and live for the purpose of building his kingdom, not for the purpose of being married. When we lay our dreams on the altar, we can walk with Jesus and watch as he resurrects them into something greater than we ever imagined.
Live for the purpose of the Kingdom of God, not for the purpose of marriage.
God has plans for your life right now. This very moment, regardless of your relationship status. Don’t miss what God has place right in front of you because you are focused on what you don’t have! Don’t miss out on the very best God has for you because you are comparing your life to someone else’s. COMPARISON STEALS JOY.
Be so careful that your longing for a relationship does not slay your appetite for living. Live life to the full right now. Seriously, go have a dance party, eat ice cream, workout for you, love the people around you intentionally, serve others, spend daily time in the secret place with Jesus, stay grateful, do the things that bring your heart joy.
At the end of it all, God isn’t going to say “Tremendous job being such a great girlfriend.” Or “Wow you made a great wife.” But may we live our lives pursuing heaven and longing to hear the words “Well, well done good and faithful servant.”
Well done, good and faithful servant.
You are so loved ❤
Grace Phelps 